I remember the exact moment I realized there was nothing to forgive, and it rocked my world. I was in Grand Haven at a friend's house, and I flipped open a book to the quote "Forgiveness is only necessary if you have judged." It really just about knocked the wind out of me. You only feel you need to forgive someone if you came up with the idea that they should have acted differently than they did. Which is ridiculous, because everyone's actions are an exact culmination o