My (Work) Soulmate is Leaving Me.
Something that I've been thinking about a lot the past couple of days is the concept that "synchronicity does not equal permanence", or in other words, "meant to be" doesn't equal "meant to be forever".
I don't think I've ever (personally) heard anyone talk about this before, but I think it's an important thing to acknowledge.
I found myself heartbroken this past week because someone who I essentially considered my "co-worker soulmate" is moving out of state, like, tomorrow. I realize now that I had misinterpreted the synchronous nature of her showing up on our doorstep just a few short months ago. In May, the head secretary (who I loved) had left, making me head secretary of a very, very busy law firm, and then my only assistant left for school in Indiana a couple weeks after that. In the past, we had interviewed dozens of people over months and were unable to ever find someone who was a good fit. Quite literally the morning after my assistant put in her notice, we had called people in for interviews and this new girl walked in the door, and we immediately knew she was a perfect fit. We hired her on the spot, and I found out later that whole experience felt like fate to her as well. It was unbelievably easy. She fit in perfectly and got along with everyone, she learned quickly, and we thought each other's jokes were funny (haha.) I couldn't have imagined or ever expected a better person for the job. Truly. I marveled at the perfection of it every single day and constantly told her how brilliant and valued she was there.
So where I went wrong, or where my innocence got a little ahead of itself, was that I took the synchronicity as evidence that it was going to be a long-term (permanent) thing. Everything about it felt right, so my heart projected and made up a story about how it was going to continue on into the future. I think we all do this - whether it is the perfect lining up of a relationship, a friendship, a job, a spiritual path...
Now, I'm not saying it wasn't meant to be.
In fact, I still believe it absolutely was. It was meant to be for the amount of time it was meant to be (and no longer than that.) Something can be right, but not necessarily right forever.
I'm really trying to figure out just how to sum up this nebulous idea in my head that life just goes from one "meant to be" to the next, synchronicity is ever-present, but constantly changing form, and can never be assumed that just because the stars aligned, means that they will stay aligned in that exact position. They will continue to align in different, new and exciting ways, each in accordance with a divine plan to support the unveiling of your highest potential.
I still feel sad that she is leaving, but I can certainly appreciate the gift that she has been to me and to everyone at the firm the time that she has been there. I can thank her for helping me acknowledge the part of me that still deep down is afraid it's not going to work out and for helping me take one more step to reclaiming my power from external circumstances.